Listen. I’ve had it with selfish people. I understand that as we age, we tend to become more inwardly focused. We’re shaping our lives so that we can live them in a manner that we want.
But let’s cut the shit. I am not about to rearrange my schedule over something minute. Either you want to hang out or not. Either you want to celebrate or you don’t. I don’t care how upset you are, you need to keep your word.
I’ve been guilty many times of simply saying “yes” to things I don’t care about to keep the peace and holding my opinion in order to make sure the people that I’m with have a good time. It comes from being in a large family with a lot of strong personalities. I figure as long as I’m with the people I care about, it’s irrelevant what we do. However, this has led to a lot of one-sided friendships where I’m there for people who do not and will not do the same for me. And my tolerance is running out rapidly.
If I have something planned, I’m not about to bend it because you don’t want to lose a fucking parking spot. I’m not about to change my mind because it makes your life slightly more difficult. No one told you to randomly schedule nonsense when we’ve already decided to do something. If you decided to stay up until 3 am when we decided to get on the road at 6:30, that’s your own damn fault.
NEWSFLASH: EFFIE, WE ALL GOT PAIN!
I know that I’m digging into this topic, but I really do not have time for people’s nonsense in 2014. You can’t keep treating people your administrative assistants instead of your friends. If you aren’t willing to make sacrifices for the friends who matter, you are going to end up with no friends willing to make you a priority.
It’s tough because I take friendship seriously and I’m not willing to let a friendship go by the wayside easily.
But step your game up. Act right. And get it together. Otherwise, you’re going to be waiting at the bus stop whole the rest of us ride to Daytona Beach.
How do you all feel about selfish friends? Any suggestions for having that tough conversation? Let us know in the comments.